It’s one of the most important days in your friend’s life, and you’ve been chosen as a bridesmaid or groomsman — congrats! There are some fun times ahead, but the role does come with some responsibilities, too. The months leading up to the wedding are filled with celebrations of all kinds, all of which require careful planning and execution. But don’t let all the pressure fall on the happy couple or their maid of honor/best man. Here are some quick and easy things you can do to be the MVWP (that’s Most Valuable Member of the Wedding Party — yes, it’s a thing).
The Engagement Party
Since engagement parties are usually one of the more laid back events of the wedding, chances are the couple won’t hire a photographer. Plus, they might still be in that giddy post-engagement stage, so they may not think to ask anyone to snap some pictures. Grab your camera and some fellow wedding party members and document the festivities, including plenty of snaps of the happy couple, along with some candid photos of guests. Check with the bride and groom to see if they’ve come up with a hashtag for their wedding, so that everyone can share photos across social media.
The Bridal Shower or Wedding Shower
More and more people are having joint wedding showers as opposed to traditional “girls only” bridal showers. However your couple chooses to celebrate, you can help out in some small but meaningful ways. For instance, if there’s a professional photographer on site, assist them by making sure they’re able to get a good vantage point of all the festivities, including gift opening, games, and fun moments with friends and family. As these parties are larger and typically attended by most of the people who’ll be at the ceremony, it’s also a great opportunity for you to create a “Meet the Maids” or “Meet the Men” video. It’s a fun way to introduce each member of the wedding party with photos, videos, and text slides telling the story of how they each know the happy couple.
Here’s an example of a “Meet the Maids” video I created for my sister, Stevie, when I was in her wedding last Fall.
Song: ‘Captivating’ by Deborah Wolfe
The Bachelor/Bachelorette Party
Bachelor and bachelorette parties are typically more intimate get togethers, and they can take many different forms. Get the scoop on what’s planned, then figure out the best way to document the night. If things are likely to stay…ahem, “G-rated,” encourage everyone to snap pictures throughout the night and share them with you later, so you can create a re-cap video to share on Facebook and Instagram. If there’s a chance that you’ll be celebrating harder than usual, set up time at the beginning of the night to take photos of the group together, then put the cameras away for a while (the bride and groom will thank you).
When it comes to the big day, you have two jobs: making sure the couple is happy and to have fun yourself! The bride and groom most likely have already sat down with their wedding photographer to go over planned and candid shots they want out of the day, but you can help this process along by helping the photographer identify family members and friends.
It’s no secret that wedding guests love to take photos, so if you see people snapping photos throughout the ceremony or reception, encourage them to post them on social media using the couple’s wedding hashtag. After the event, it’ll be a fantastic way for the couple to enjoy all of the memories captured by their guests. Then, kick off your shoes and hit the dance floor — you’ve done your job and it’s time to party!
What are your best tips for bridesmaids and groomsmen? Let us know in the comments below!